😱 A client's thoughts were so scary she froze
I'm dedicating this month to helping you understand and tame scary thoughts. We all have them and when you know how to tame them, you triple (or more!) your energy, joy, productivity, results, and time.
Everything in your life shifts when you know how to shift your thoughts.
Here are just some thought categories that scare your body and create everyday resistance to life:
Judgment thoughts
What-if thoughts
Not enough thoughts
Stress/worry/anxiety thoughts
"It's not that bad" thoughts
Guilt and shame thoughts
The five stall-outs (perfectionism, people-pleasing, control, comparison, and hiding thoughts)
This client testimonial shows how our thoughts can be so dramatic and scary that they create a freeze response to life:
“When I started working with Kelly, I was FROZEN in fear. I was at the point that I could barely function, I was paralyzed by panic attacks almost daily and to avoid having one - I would sleep as much as possible. I was dead inside.
I signed up for 12 weeks with Kelly, meeting once per week. By Week 5 I was a completely different person. I was ALIVE again for the first time in a long time. She cleared the FOG that I was existing in and taught me how to live again.
Since we made so much progress by week 5, we were able to spend the rest of our sessions together building and expanding. I am so next-leveled up, and all I was looking for was a way to learn how to exist again.
I no longer just exist, but I and my family THRIVE, in just a few short weeks! Kelly gave me my life back, reminded me who I am, and taught me how to navigate daily struggles with ease and grace.
I am eternally grateful for all that Kelly has done to help me, and I highly recommend her if you are struggling in any area of your life. She will elevate you to your next best level!"
This testimonial was from one year ago. We continue to have monthly sessions and let me tell you...WOW. She has gone from thriving to thriving x10....
Work now:
A year ago she still had scary thoughts that she wasn't as good as or as well-spoken as her degreed co-workers. Management reinforced these thoughts and told her she didn't warrant the same pay because of this.
Instead of fleeing (a common way she used to cope when she had these 'not enough' thoughts), she decided to stay the course because she knew deep down that she was awesome but saw that she still needed to put in the work to up-level her thoughts so she would truly believe it.
Her self-work paid off and management sees how kick-ass she is at her job and actually appreciates her 'unpolished' and real approach with clients because clients love her and the way she explains processes.
Even though they gave her a tremendous raise, it's still below what her co-workers make. Instead of ruminating or taking it personally, she talks openly with them about her expectations and next steps. She feels confident in her skills and what she brings to the table and is at peace knowing that no matter what happens she wins and will easily find the right-fitting career that values her worth.
Home and family now:
Long and beautiful story…she married her soul mate and they, along with their two children and two dogs, are choosing to live in a camper part-time. She is homeschooling and loving it!
Control was her top stall-out behavior and she has learned to let go of another layer of it with her eight-year-old son.
"Everything feels so DIFFERENT and better. I parent with authority and you can just TELL my instructions aren’t being filtered through a lens of guilt and shame. I speak CONFIDENTLY to him, knowing I am a great and present mama who does not abandon him. Thanks for everyyyyything - you provide our family so much value. I’m so glad the Google Gods shined upon us many months ago!"
If you identify with any of the above scary thought categories...you're totally normal and have a regular brain!
Thoughts can be scary yet when you learn how to manage them and have a better understanding of how your body interprets them, you see that you hold the power to course-correct -- and you've had the power all along.
If you want to learn more about your mind, get plugged into my Motivation Monday community today because I'm going deeper into these thought categories and giving you tools to practice all month long. The month ends with the free masterclass on 10/24 where we'll do a deep dive and bring everything you've learned together.