I was addicted to being busy and the toll I paid
Are you busy and fulfilled or busy and overwhelmed?
Big difference.
I was addicted to the second way for decades and here's the toll it took.
Busy and overwhelmed.
What was I so busy doing?
Taking on too much responsibility
Controlling other people and situations
'Busy’ work that kept me safe from doing the important work
Putting others needs and requests first
Being in my head ‘thinking’ about everything I had to do
Saying yes to too many things not in line with my values and goals
What did I get to brag/complain/feel good about?
How busy I was
How I couldn’t get my important work done because of my busyness
How helpful I was to others
How other people needed me
What were the positives?
People liked me
I felt needed/important/worthy
I stayed safe from failure, discomfort, and rejection by avoiding my important work
What results didn’t I get that I told myself and others that I wanted?
Business growth
More money
Peace and ease
To stop being so busy
Respect
More productivity
What was my mental state?
Overwhelm
Anxiety
Never feeling like there was enough time. Always a lack of time.
What happened in daily life?
Stress eating
Low energy
Not working out (or working out too much)
Lack of sleep
Scattered thinking
Now? I’m busy and fulfilled
What am I so busy doing?
Taking bold actions on my business
Saying yes or no to opportunities with confidence and without the guilt
Having fun in my relationships
Trusting and flowing that I'm exactly where I need to be
Living in line with my values and passions
What do I get to brag/complain/feel good about?
Being productive
My business, health, joy, relationships
Travel/fun
What are the positives?
People still like me (and actually respect me more)
I still feel needed/important/worthy
I feel the discomfort of failure or rejection and do the important work anyway
What results do I get that I tell myself and others that I want?
Business growth
More money
Peace and ease
To stop being so busy
Respect
More productivity
What is my mental state?
Chill/relaxed
Confident
Ease
Energized
Joy and happiness
Time feels expansive. I always have plenty of time.
What happens in daily life?
Sleep better
Healthy relationship with food
Regular movement
On-target thinking
Fun/joy!
Being busy (and overwhelmed) is a storyline your Inner Critic tells you to keep you safe from…
Playing bigger
Failing or succeeding
Being judged
Loneliness
Not being liked
Your Inner Critic is a liar.
Being busy (and fulfilled) is a storyline you step into when you stop putting so much time and attention on your Inner Critic’s B.S. and learn the kick-ass tools that help you see through her ‘safety’ net so that you feel the discomfort that comes with playing bigger in your life and do it anyway.
It’s not as if you don’t want to live that way now, it’s just that we weren’t taught how to do it. We were taught to stay in the safety net.
But you know what?
That safety net comes with the being busy and overwhelmed storyline.
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