You probably do this. Pick one for your challenge this week
Most of us people-please to one degree or another. This week, watch out for the positive spin you may be putting on it. Do you say that you’re just…
Being caring?
Responsible?
Easy-going?
Being respectful?
Helpful?
Keeping the peace?
Being selfless?
Compassionate?
These traits are obviously good to have yet, when you prioritize doing these things for other people, you end up losing your relationship with yourself.
Inner Critic says this is the right way to have loving relationships. She's a liar.
She also says that it’s got to be one or the other – if you do for you, you can't do for others. Or, if you do for yourself first, you’re selfish. More lies.
You actually thrive, come alive, and have more meaningful and respectful relationships when you prioritize YOU.
If you're putting a positive spin on this stall-out behavior, consider committing to this week’s action-taking challenge: Pick one of these three and DO it:
1. Where are you neglecting taking care of yourself?
Choose one thing, put it in as a VIP appointment on your calendar, and do it completely and unapologetically for you.
2. Where are you giving away your power and letting other people make the decisions?
Decide that you’re going to have an opinion this week about something. Maybe it's where you eat, what activity you do, or what movie to watch.
3. How are you not respecting yourself?
This could be staying quiet and not voicing your opinion or putting yourself last and the other person first.
Speak from the heart this week or set a boundary for yourself and honor it.
NOTE: You will feel uncomfortable taking action. It's normal. And, the feeling won’t kill you. Breath through the discomfort and take the action anyway. This is how you grow your relationship with yourself and all your other important relationships.
Want to learn more about how to identify and what to do about people-pleasing? Check these out:
The people-pleaser and controller attraction (and the fixes)
Eight tell-tale signs you’re giving too much of yourself away
Five ways to tell if you’re on the people-pleasing slippery slope